Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Digging Deeper to Make Yourself Irresistable!!

What defines beauty?  Is it flawless skin?  Perfectly blended eyeshadow?  That pair of Louboutin pumps that make you walk like a model?  Take all that away & what do you have...

For a long time, what I perceived beauty as, was purely on the surface.  I'd be lying through my teeth if I said anything else.  Shallow, I know.  As a teen, I could relate to "Mean Girls" & the way Lindsay Lohan was pulled into the world of the "Plastics" & the how it became second nature to say mean things & become consumed with your own vanity.  Now in my "late 20's", I've come to realize that what makes a woman beautiful, at any age, has just as much to do with her personality, the way she treats others & the respect she has for herself. 

I'm just sayin, no one wants to be around the diva supermodel that thinks that the world was made just for her.  Or the girl that thinks its ok to be rude because shes "keepin it real".  To me, that's a total cop-out.  How dare you try to cover up your bitchassness of tearing down others to make yourself feel better & claim it as "being real".  You are being real all right.... a real bitch.  Sorry off topic...

As I was saying... Makeup, hair & clothes can only get you so far in life.  My man likes to joke & poke fun at me when glammed up & got my false lashes on.  He says it reminds him of that episode of Fresh Prince where Will takes out Tisha Campbell (I forgot her name in the episode) & they get stuck in the basement instead.  He thinks shes the bomb, but after she pulls of her fake nails & wig & is spittin all kinds of attitude, it all changes.  That's exactly what I'm saying.  Her beauty got her a date, but she lost him when he realized she was frontin. 

I'll tell you that I prayed on it & asked for forgiveness.  I thawed out my black heart (lol, I'm playin) to let in room for growth.  I try to form my own judgements about people.  I try not to let others influence me when I meet someone new.  I will stay friends with someone I find genuine even when others may not understand.  I venture into different social circles & have a variety of people in my life.  Actions speak louder than words.  I can promise you that I dont have ugly friends... And by that I mean that not only are beautiful on the outside, but on the inside as well. 

Seriously, give it a try!  Smile at strangers.  Compliment someone when you like their bag & ask them where they got it.  Offer to let the person behind you with their one item cut in front of you & your basket full or groceries.  Trust me, it will make you feel fantastic!  It will make people around you smile & notice how fricken AMAZING you are! 

til next time, Mia <3

1 comment:

  1. I completely agree with you on this one Mia..u can be the most prettiest girl..but if your attitude sucks FORGET IT! lol..like you i have a variety of friends who are all different and come from different walks of life...OUTSIDE of WEST HWD! lol..and Im happy and thrilled about that!!